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When Sea Becomes Sky

VERDICT: Avoid

Concern Level: Medium

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Concerning & Potentially Concerning Content

Note: Our site is about equipping parents and therefore we don’t typically don’t hesitate to include spoilers if it is needed to inform Christian parents of the full picture for a book. With that said, the concerning / potentially concerning content below contains a huge spoiler for this story. This book is about the sibling relationship between Bex and Davey. Early on we learn that Davey has stopped talking to his parents and everyone else except for Bex. It is not until you come towards the end of the book that you learn Davey has been dead all along and was imagined by Bex the entire adventure. He died the previous summer, but Bex has been living in “what ifs” and operating as if he was still alive until she is confronted by a hollow artist who makes art about letting go, as she herself lost her own daughter at a young age. Twelve-year-old Bex lies on several occasions, though she is described as a truth teller. "It was okay to have a different version if necessary" was the conclusion at one point. In another lie she concludes "it was a small thing and not worth the trouble to talk about". However, when she lies, her stomach would hurt or clinch. The book ends stating that telling the truth is important. Davey likes to read "crying books" where a character dies at the end as it makes him feel things. According to this nine-year-old, a book that starts happy then becomes sad and ends on a happy/sad note is worth reading. Because of a drought, a statue is revealed in the water. When they realize they have a mystery on their hands, they resolve to keep it to themselves. They turn to the internet instead of asking their parents who would be knowledgeable to help (their mother is a researcher and their father is an island native). To make it worse they justify this behavior: "Things change once adults stick their noses in it. It will be their project, not ours". Bex risked swimming alone to investigate the statue at least twice even though she was not allowed to swim in the marsh without an adult present. She deliberately diverts her mother, who regularly studies the biological life in the marsh. She also takes a ferry from the island to a museum in the city without her parent's knowledge, which ensues a frantic search for her. After this incident, the father notes that they should have taken her to therapy. When wanting to show her parents' the special place she shared with her brother, the parents noted it was late in the evening. Her thoughts go to Davey and him saying 'Parents! They just don't get it'. A few other mentions: Bex is described as one born to argue The naming of a special area to something relating to mythology is referred to as a genius joke. After dinner one night, Bex and Davey sat on the porch telling ghost stories. For the Dad, "water and poetry were his religion, that he drew a kind of calmness and strength from them that other people got from church". On two occasions while comforting Bex, her mother traces a slow figure 8 on her forehead. Something she always did when the kids were sick or upset to calm them down. A family getting on the ferry is described as two dads with 2 children. At the art museum, they observe a piece with a carpenter wearing a frilly dress. While in the garden for lunch they point out "a person” with pink hair and a baby stroller.

Our Thoughts

This book has a beautiful inviting cover. The author's descriptive writing style made the story a delightful read. Bex and Davey have a strong admirable sibling relationship with love, encouragement, support and protection. The parents are caring and give Bex (and Davey) freedom to explore the island home. The real sticking point is that, though beautifully written, this is not really a children's book in our opinion. After learning of Davey's death, it is then understood that the lies and avoidance were a coping mechanism for the young tween. Honestly, off the pages of the book, Bex would be a strong candidate for therapy as she "arranged her life [for what seems like a year] so that things made sense with him [Davey] there rather than live without him." The author uses the word imagined but was she entertaining a ghost or a spirit? He raced her up the stairs, fed her yellow m&ms, and even stepped on her foot a couple times. Dwelling on loved one's memories is one thing, creating new ones where they are part of your everyday activities is quite another. This book draws from the personal experience of the author losing a young sibling. Losing a loved one is always difficult and being able to share that through a story is a great feat. But Christians, let us be reminded of 1 Thessalonians 4:13 - “Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope”. While the tween's need to cope with the death of her brother is understandable, this is not a coping mechanism to glamorize or encourage amongst the impressionable youth (here with a reading target age or 8-12 years). This one is close, but we have it as an Avoid for the target age group.

Plot SummaryNote: This information is typically from the publisher.Use with caution

In this heartfelt summer story, acclaimed author Gillian McDunn paints a stunning portrait of the bond of siblings and the love we'll always carry with us. Bex and Davey's summer in the saltmarsh is different this year, thanks to the record-breaking drought. Even the fish seem listless--and each day the water level lowers farther. When they discover a mysterious underwater statue, they're thrilled at the chance to solve the puzzle of its origin. This is the summer adventure they've been waiting for. When they learn of a development plan that will destroy their special spot, they'll need to act quickly. Unfortunately, sometimes progress happens whether you're ready or not. What will it mean if Bex and Davey lose their corner of the marsh where otters frolic and dragonflies buzz--their favorite place to be siblings together? As Bex and Davey attempt to save the statue and their beloved marsh, they come to see that the truth is not as simple as it seems . . . ultimately discovering so much more about life, permanence, love, and loss than they ever expected. Award-winning author Gillian McDunn crafts a gorgeous story of love and siblinghood, of secret statues and island life, of holding on and letting go.

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Scripture Reflection

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

— Romans 12:1-2

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