The Year My Life Went Down the Toilet
VERDICT: Avoid
Concern Level: Extreme

Concern LevelExtreme
Concerning & Potentially Concerning Content
When reading this section, please keep in mind that the main characters are only 12 years old. Major Concerns: The main character, a young girl, describes herself as queer. Much of the book centers around this. As the book evolves, young readers are taken through a drawn-out budding romance as she meets another young girl. It is hard to properly describe just how incredibly emotionally charged this is and how much it would impact a young child who read it. We read of the excitement of moments where the two let their legs touch when sitting next to each other. At one point she mentions dreaming of running away to be with her. This culminates with a kiss where we read, “the moment her lips touch against mine my body feels like it will explode” (again, only 12). To make all this worse from a Christian perspective, young readers will be left with a very out-of-whack view of just how prevalent gay and gender confusion is. Al joins a random group of children in a support group for her condition. Eventually it turns out nearly this whole group is gay, bi and/or uses non-biblical gender pronouns. Then Al finds out her mom and female best friend are now dating (both had previously been married to men). Then Al’s best friend, a boy, surprises her by coming out as gay. A girl from drama is said to have two dads (which is called ‘cool’). The person leading the play is bi. This huge percentage of the characters we meet in the book will leave a very unhealthy message with young readers. Al has a secret second TikTok account. She hides and uses this throughout the book. This is never shown as wrong or repented of. Even beyond just the immorality of the secret account she discusses watching for hours. Tying into the initial major concern above, we are told several times her feed is full of girls who like girls (the word queer is used many times throughout, along with lesbian). For example, we are told there is a “cool queer couple” she envies. We are also told it is full of girls kissing. At one point Al comments that she hates when people say you are on the phone too much, she says “I’m not, it’s just where my life is”. While it does eventually ‘resolve’ to an extent at the end of the book, Al has a very negative, unhealthy relationship with her mother. She lies to her, gets extremely frustrated with her attempts to help her with her disease, complains constantly about her. At one point we are told her best friend is the one she goes to in order to avoid her mom. At one point when the doctor suggests a support group we are told Al is 1000 times less likely to do it because her mom agrees with the suggestion. She takes action “out of spite”. She rolls her eyes multiple times, answers rudely, thinks the worst, is critical. Her mom is held up as the villain for the majority of the book, despite the fact that the only thing she seems to be doing is trying to help her manage her disease. To make this worse we read that there is an unspoken rule that mom won’t enter her room and doesn’t ever check her phone. At one point she leaves the house without telling her where she is going and is gone for hours. Kids at the support group are invited to share their pronouns. One child describes themselves as “they/she”. The book refers to them as “they” (instead of he or she) throughout. Another boy calls himself “aromantic”. Another says he thinks boys are cute, is not sure if he is totally a boy, but he/him pronouns are still cool (response back is “that is so cool!”). A statement is made that “no one would be able to tell if I was a girl or a boy or maybe something else”. At one point the unsupervised group of boys and girls suggest watching a movie they describe as “inappropriate”, to which everyone replies that they won’t tell and they all watch it. Two main characters, a boy and girl, are left alone unsupervised often, including sleepovers. At one point they sneak into a ‘gender neutral’ bathroom. When they both come out to each other, they immediately invite their corresponding gay boyfriend/girlfriend over with the mom and her new girlfriend out of the house. The doctor is meeting with Al one-on-one. She asks about bringing her mom in. Al asks if they have to which the author has the doctor utter the extremely alarming statement “until you are 18 unfortunately” because of “that pesky law” (remember Al is 12)! Another authority figure, the counselor, asks about a parent's divorce, “Do you think they might be better” now… “Has their relationship seemed better now that they live in separate places?” to which there is a reply that “I know they’re better (now)”. The book ends with a “queer youth line” that can be contacted via text. Other Concerns: Mom has told Al she is the product of a one night stand. Some will find the constant and unrelenting discussion of ‘poop’, having accidents and related topics disturbing. At one point a rectal exam is described in detail. There is also a real feeling of obsession over this disease. She thinks and talks about it constantly. Al describes herself as ‘not religious’ and at one point she mentions the afterlife, followed by the comment “if there is one”. As a part of the medical issues Al’s underwear are described. She makes a wish on a star. OMG is used a lot as well as “oh my god”. Also, suck and holy crap appear. High School Musical the Musical the Series is mentioned a couple times. The two friends mention hating their gym teacher.
VerdictAvoid
Our Thoughts
Like we saw in the book “Answers in the Pages” there is a surface level topic that everything you will read about will point to… and then there is the ultra-concerning sub-plot. While in Answers in the Pages, the surface plot is about censorship, here the story is meant to revolve around normalizing a problem many people deal with, IBD and Crohn's disease. The problem, just like in that other title, comes in the way that main message is delivered. We really don’t think anything needs to be said here. Read the concerning content above. It doesn’t get much more clear cut about how Christian’s should feel about this book and the impact it would have on the young children we have the responsibility of training and protecting.
Plot SummaryNote: This information is typically from the publisher.Use with caution
A hilariously honest book about surviving middle school while navigating a chronic illness from the Stonewall Honor-winning author of Almost Flying. Twelve-year-old Al Schneider is too scared to talk about the two biggest things in her life: 1. Her stomach hurts all the time and she has no idea why. 2. She’s almost definitely 100% sure she likes girls. So she holds it in…until she can’t. After nearly having an accident of the lavatorial variety in gym class, Al finds herself getting a colonoscopy and an answer—she has Crohn’s disease. But rather than solving all her problems, Al's diagnosis just makes everything worse. It’s scary and embarrassing. And worst of all, everyone wants her to talk about it—her overprotective mom, her best friend, and most annoyingly her gastroenterologist, who keeps trying to get her to go to a support group for kids with similar chronic illnesses. But, who wants to talk about what you do in the bathroom? The Year My Life Went Down the Toilet is a wildly funny and honest story about finding community, telling the truth even when it’s hard, and the many indignities of middle school life.
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Read ReviewFor though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
— 2 Corinthians 10:3-5
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