This book focuses on a topic that Christian parents will want to make sure their child is ready for, especially since it is coming from a non-Christian worldview. The most concerning line comes when a therapist tells the 12-year-old main character that the doctor she goes to should be her choice and her parents shouldn’t have any say so. This is a real concern, especially in light of today’s views on children and gender dysphoria. There is also concern around disrespect and anger at times towards her mother. For example, Ellie loses her temper when her mom takes her to a bariatric surgeon, saying “So you hate looking at me so much you’re willing to chance me dying on an operating table or later from complications?” This is tricky for a child because Ellie’s criticism of her mother in this story is often warranted, but the way she speaks to her is concerning. The mother who brings on this criticism is described as being Christian, but unfortunately is not shown as someone following Christ. Her husband is Jewish and at one point Ellie calls him “Judas” because he sides with her mother about Ellie seeing a therapist. There is a reference to an extra marital affair by the father of her friend. Also, the book uses the terms “Lard butt”, “suck”, “dammed tears” (meant to be held behind a dam- but could be confused by young readers), and “h-e-double-hockey-sticks” (a reference for hell the world often uses to make light of a very serious term). The bullying portrayed is sad and will certainly weigh on young readers.
Psalm 101:3
Quick Answer: Prayerfully Consider
Concern Level: Medium
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Starfish
VERDICT: Prayerfully Consider
Concern Level: Medium
Christian Parent Review
This book won a Michael L Printz Honor Book Award. It is also a nominee for the Volunteer State Book Award so it is one that will be on the shelves front-and-center in schools and public libraries. It is written in verse in the voice of almost 12-year-old Ellie who is very overweight and constantly bullied at school and, unfortunately, at home by her siblings and mother (who is said to be a Christian). Her dad (who is Jewish) is her ally. Taking careful consideration of the concerns listed above, this is one to prayerfully consider for children who are mature enough. It should almost certainly only be considered in cases where a Christian parent is willing to be involved along the way. We are given the opportunity to view life through Ellie’s eyes and examine the way we view others, particularly those who are overweight. By walking in her shoes, we develop compassion and empathy and hopefully examine our own hearts for prejudice toward others. “Stereotypes stink. They give people an excuse to hate people who are different instead of taking the time to know them… Does everybody make somebody feel like a nobody?” Our society has put a huge emphasis on the fact that it is wrong to mistreat someone because of the color of their skin or because of a disability, but is often much more accepting of “fat phobia” or being “grossed out by overweight people”. This leads to many great talking points for Christian parents with their children: We are all made in God’s image. We all have value. We are called to be kind. What is the impact of Ellie not having genuine Christians in this story who can act as her advocates? What would it look like for a loving Christian mother or close friend to address something like this in place of Ellie’s mom’s approach to put her on diets, monitor her food, refuse to buy her new clothes, check her garbage can, schedule her to see a surgeon? What would it look like to invite Jesus into this situation?
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Ever since Ellie wore a whale swimsuit and made a big splash at her fifth birthday party, she’s been bullied about her weight. To cope, she tries to live by the Fat Girl Rules–like “no making waves,” “avoid eating in public,” and “don’t move so fast that your body jiggles.” And she’s found her safe space–her swimming pool–where she feels weightless in a fat-obsessed world. In the water, she can stretch herself out like a starfish and take up all the room she wants. It’s also where she can get away from her pushy mom, who thinks criticizing Ellie’s weight will motivate her to diet. Fortunately, Ellie has allies in her dad, her therapist, and her new neighbor, Catalina, who loves Ellie for who she is. With this support buoying her, Ellie might finally be able to cast aside the Fat Girl Rules and starfish in real life–by unapologetically being her own fabulous self.
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Note: Scroll down to the second book at this URL. This is a great review from a source we are very thankful for. Definitely worth a read as it makes some great points.
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The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching. They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.
— Proverbs 1:7-9